Tuesday 19 May 2015

Navigating the seas toward real love: Part Two

Despite how precious a relationship may be, both partners should know that, when misunderstanding arises, a third party can only contribute their best, the ultimate decisions rest on the shoulders of both partners to always sort out their differences and come to a mutual understanding. Therefore, following the right principles will go a long way in straightening things out. As we gradually come to terms with reality in all ramifications of life. Something must keep us going, notwithstanding. And for the most part, that something always happens to be passion.  Since love is a choice, it doesn’t happen out of thin air, something must drive it: what could this be?


As love happens to be a choice; we choose who to be with and who not to be with. Our decision could be right or wrong, time always tells when the season is due. Nevertheless, when we tend to make such choice; genuine reason should be the key to driving us in the right direction. As we are headed in this right direction, a path is created to a place called home; which in most cases, a place where our heart is. In this respect, where does our heart rest? Who our heart is with? What does our heart want? And how does our heart love?

Irrespective of the fact that individual wants are different, we all crave to be loved. Certain questions keep crossing our minds: Where do we get it? Who gives it to us? What do we do with it? How do we give it back depends on our individual choices. But we will be looking at it from a generic sense, by putting love at the center of the whole thing. For a plant to grow and bring forth food and fruits, it needs seed, water and sunlight.

How the relationship is defined lays the path to how it germinates. Pleasant and encouraging words can create a very fertile soil for your farmland or plantation. Having firsthand knowledge is crucial to managing the balance in your emotional bank account; which should always be in the black rather than red, as God initially ordained it.

Now, it is left for both parties to tend and keep the relationship moving in the right direction without resentment or reservations. Uplifting words should always be the order of the day no matter the circumstances. To keep this going, the basis of the relationship should be one of mutual acceptance. Not based on the wants of life; but on the needs that make the heart grow and cherished. Both partners should have to come to an understanding of regarding each other as comparable; rendering help wherever deem fit and working together for the betterment of the future.

Any sense of entitlement and superiority should be erased from the psyche. Patience and humility are indispensable elements in reaching toward a much genuine love. Some of the things that bring chaos to a stable relationship are things that have no lasting value. Also known as wants. When we are not contented with who we are with, we begin to look for ways to distance ourselves, by bringing in one claims or the other based on false assumptions. Even with our natural flaws as humans, we always need to rekindle our efforts in making our relationships better each and every day. So any tempting offer from outside parties or peer pressure should be thoroughly weighed under the scale. Advice is good, though with good intentions.

Staying keen on your heart desire toward your partner create a way for constant renewal of what brought you both together in the first place. Being tempted from the outside will be out of the question. Other vices especially jealousy, will be swept away and the fountain of pure water toward a much real love will continue to spring up.

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