Tuesday, 19 May 2015

Navigating the seas toward real love: Part Four

Out of blue, genuine humility and constant patience will flow naturally, paving the way for a tolerant and compassionate environment. As things progress, your joy will glow and mirror your partner, producing a sense of peace in your relationships with people. Because the most dangerous thing that causes lasting damage to our relationship is pride.

Maintaining our sense of dignity should be kept intact. However, pride should always be put in check. When it is given a slight chance to take root, we begin to think so highly of ourselves and see others as non-entities. In a situation or place where we are expected to display such attitude, it makes more sense to avoid such, in order not to make ugly mess of ourselves down the line. No one knows everything, and in any case where you have nothing tangible or inspiring today; it is better to say I don’t know or keep shut. Evermore, be moved to ask the right people questions when you don’t know. Asking the right people in the sense that, they won’t have to make mockery of your circumstances.


A relationship built on the comprehension that increase learning makes way for open doors ushers in the breezes of comfort. A boat paddling to a direction is not stagnant. So is also working toward a real love. There are certain ingredients to keep it yummy and always tasty, just like the apple pie or chocolate cake. When the heart is flourished with love, what you do comes easy. You will increase in kind and become a better person as the sunset and sunrise.

Your body and immune system will be refreshed; revitalizing your entire nervous system and makes you look younger. There will be a fundamental change in your temperament, for the better.

There are some issues that will come up, that would warrant both partners to iron it out themselves by taken it to God, asking him for divine wisdom. In fact, 90% of the issues should be discussed by both partners, since they share common interest in unifying the center. Outside interference could disrupt their view and approach toward life may be quite different from the partners involved. Except in extreme cases should it be put into consideration?

Meanwhile, like I emphasized before, staying close to experienced people and learning from their mistakes would give you a sense of compassion toward your mate in putting their point of view into perspective. Under no circumstances or quarrel should you drag their dignity to the mud to rubbish them in the open. This is where protecting their integrity comes in. And whatever secret you may know of them should not be leaked out.

In the case of any event, no matter how messy it may look or seen. Accepting each others fault, turning weaknesses into strength yields good fruits and builds one’s character, thereby taking the relationship to a new level of maturity. The major act that plants discord in a relationship is listening to gossip. There is nothing that can damage a good relationship than listening to side talks. Whether good or bad, whenever or wherever an issue is whispered under the sun or moon; do not be part of it. Hear from the horse’s mouth and properly weigh the issue from an independent mind without bias will do more good than harm.

On the high seas, you will come across naysayers, be mindful of them, and do not learn their ways. Your love life needs to be grounded on what truly matters. So that together, you can wage any storm and continue moving forward. Take note that not everyone will be happy with your relationship based on trivial reasons which could be a social construct such as class, religion, race, ethnicity, etc. A mind and heart centered on working toward perfect love conquers all. Just as the waters on the high seas are not stagnant, so both partners needs to put the precious thing they share ahead of their differences, not to give room to persistent outside pressure in bringing your happiness to a standstill.

It needs to keep flowing, out of the heart like a stream of living waters. Every once in a while, it is better to imagine yourself and your partner, on an island together, swinging on a spring of perpetual balance. Taking a break from everyone including work, and go to a secluded romantic spot, in reminiscent of time, on good memory lane, new ones can be created and every form of negativity can be purged out, ventilating fresh air.

Sailing on a proper platform toward real love requires preparation. In the sense that you need to prepare yourself mentally, psychologically, spiritually and otherwise to face any form of challenges that comes your way. Where your faith comes from depends on you. Staying on firm ground with God on your side is what definitely matters. It helps to meditate over good advice of those who have our best interest at heart. But we must be weary of those whose words do not speak life into our love life. Though, being realistic often calls for reason, renewal should always be the center of our theme.

A root laid on the truth of love will always sustain good fruits. Both partners will not always walk in sync, we are not robots, rather are we a computer program. Uptick of emotions is bound to take place. Keeping it in check and turning the negative into positive energy is fundamental to the long term growth of the relationship.

When trouble comes along in a relationship, and the bond both partners share does not stand the test of time, the foundation should be rechecked, and the spring holding it should be renewed. All relationships are not bed of roses, as much as it brings joy to our lives, the bad should reignite the joy toward a genuine love. Notwithstanding that partners ought to share a lot in common, and being there for each other at all times, as people, we are individually unique.

For the most part, we should be treated as such, so we need space to ourselves to do what we always love doing. Instead of lamenting against such, we should pay attention and be there for our partners through thick and thin. Nourishing their potential and bringing out the best in them should be harnessed in a light and heartfelt manner. In certain situations, you may be uncomfortable with what your partner is doing, this could create tensions that would trigger into a much bigger problems.

Rather than keep quite like it doesn’t exist, it is better to talk it out in the open and make each other see reasons. Denial is not an option under any circumstances, because if it is not addressed initially, similar arguments could ensue and the whole thing would burst into flames, leading to more problems. As issue should be approached wisely and be done with. Repeating it will only revive old wounds which hinders the stream that flows toward a much heartfelt love. To rebuke each other with the right words should be welcomed, for it makes one to learn from mistakes, amend things and move on with life. No one is above correction, for it helps in strengthening the foundation.

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